7. Asking for more presence/intensity is misunderstood as asking for more time together.
I suspect this is conflation with the logic of romance and cohabitation. In reality, this can be achieved with deeper but not longer interactions, more meaningful gestures, more enduring infrastructure (as objects or habits). Obviously, believing that "more friendship = more time together" quickly runs into practical issues.
Co-occurs with sign 4 and 5 a lot.
wrote:Some of my warning signs for failing friendships—a thread. I happen to care a lot about friendships, so for me when they break it's quite salient. I spent a lot of time thinking about them, read academic articles of sociology and psychology on the topic, etc. What I'm going to talk about is typically reserved for romantic relationships, while friendships are comparatively disinvested and set aside (that's amatonormativity), so if it sounds like I care too much, that's why, don't @ me.